BOOST IT UP! | You and Your Confidence!

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To another episode of mo or less, when we encourage you to get the most out of life. So you're not left here with less. I want to encourage you guys to be the best version of yourself each and every day. And it starts by boosting your confidence. So today we're going to talk about just that, how to boost your confidence./

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/I want to encourage you guys that by shifting your mindset and shifting little habits that you do on day in and day out, okay? results in you being more confident in yourself and having a greater impact on your life. Let me give you a couple nuggets, a couple little life hacks here and now that's going to transform your mind. And I like to just jump right into it. I don't like to beat around the bush. So let's get into it. One of the biggest hindrances of confidence is lack of achievement. When we fail at things, when things don't go our way, we just give up. And then we slip into a place of self doubt. We slip into a place of lack. We slip into a place where we think less of ourselves instead of more. So one thing that I do when it comes to getting over that little, Hump is setting achievable goals. Now, what is setting achievable goals? What happens is we want to have big goals. Oh, I want to lose 30 pounds by the month. That might not be realistic. Oh, I want to be a millionaire by my next birthday. My next birthday is in four months. That might not be a real, that might not be realistic. Or, I want to achieve these big things and we don't do realistic goals and we put ourselves in the worst position possible to succeed because we started off as failures already. What you need to do is set small just like smart goals. If you're familiar with smart goals, you want to be specific. You want it to be measurable. You want it to be achievable. You want it to be timely, all the you want it to be reasonable, all those things. I'm out of butcher smart goals but the concept is make it simple, make it achievable, make it attainable. And for example, you set a goal of 10 things, right? And make the five things, the easiest thing you can do on your checklist, right? Start with doing small goals for the day. Number one, wake up, check. Number two, brush my teeth. Check. Number three, make a cup of coffee. Check. Number four, stretch for five to 10 minutes. Number five, pray and read God's word. Check. Wow. Within no time, I checked off five of my 10 things for today. And as you do that in your subconscious, your mind is going to reflect, wow, you're achieving your go getter. You're getting things done. You're already halfway there. Even though those first five things are so simple, your mind is okay, we're checking things off today. So when you get to number eight, nine, and 10, which is going to be the difficult thing, close a big sale, make 10 calls work out for 30 minutes. Those bigger things that you want to get done for today might seem a lot easier because you're then motivated. You have to trick your mind to be motivated in a sense. And when it comes to tricking your mind, I'm going to give you another nugget. Always be learning. Always be learning. This is my ABL. You heard of BBLs? It is ABL. That was a corny joke right there. I'm so sorry, but always be learning in sales. They say always be closing in confidence is always be. I love reading right now. I'm reading an audiobook on Atomic Habits. I'm finishing that up. And Atomic Habits is an awesome book because it teaches us how to have the small routines just like this. And building those small routines over time will put you in a place. of abundance will put you in a place of excelling, right? And I'm also reading about the the superior man, the way of the superior man. Now, the way of the superior man is very, it's very intriguing to me because it's talking about making, getting out of yourself and making yourself Like the ideal person, not the person that walks into the room and say, Hey, everybody look at me, but being the person that walks into the room and everyone's who is that? Who is that person over there? And you don't do it for that, but because you're naturally, I've built yourself. Vernacular of charisma, people look at you and they want to know who is that person, right? When like when jesus came in there they heard about jesus And they wanted to know who jesus was when they showed up his very presence alone Shifted the atmosphere in a positive way and how to be like that, i'm always learning I'm always wanting to be how can I be a better person? How can I be a better parent? How can I be a better servant of god? How can I be a better family member? And that starts with identifying self, my shortcomings, being transparent with myself and saying, you know what, I struggle in these areas, but I'm really good in these areas and knowing I don't have to be the loudest person in the room, but people will gravitate to me just by being kind, by being charismatic, by, by listening to people, I guarantee you, you want to boost your confidence, you want to boost your confidence in the area of charisma, Next time you talk to somebody, don't mention anything about yourself, encourage and stimulate them. Ask them about their day and keep going. See how many questions you can ask. Ask about 10, 20 questions to that person and see how long can keep them going, right? Going back to my sales job. As an example, when I'm closing deals, it's because I'm getting that person to unpack themselves. I'm like, let me know about your business. Tell me more about your business. Wow. That is awesome. What made you want to do that? How? How'd you get into that field? How'd you get into that industry? Wow. How long have you been doing that? Wow. What's the best part about your job? Wow. That is amazing. Tell me more. Tell me more. And then I say, Oh based on what you said, this is the perfect thing for you. If you want to take your business to the next level, based on what you said about yourself, this fits right in perfectly with what you're already doing. How does that sound to you? Yeah, you're right. That is awesome. That's simple. Simple sales thing. I'm being genuine, but they're selling themselves to me. I don't sell myself to them. I make them sell themselves to me and make them hear what the value of themselves is betrayed. What I heard. I give them back their own value and give them something that fits their value. And you want to do that with people. You want to give them something that fits their value. Oh, tell me more about your life. Tell me more about your kids. Tell me more about your business. Wow. How long have you been doing that? That is awesome. So here today, tell me more. I'm like, that is awesome. I'd love to hear more. How's that sound to you? Let's connect. I want to see what I can do to serve you, to help you. When people hear that, they're like, wow, this person is awesome. And they're going to say all these great things about you, because not because of who you are, but because of how you made them feel, you made them feel confident and when you make others feel confident, that boost your confidence, I just put you on game here. Y'all, I just put you on game here. Next time you meet somebody, introduce yourself to somebody new. Try to exhaust their vernacular. Try to exhaust their, their presence by asking them as many questions as you can. Make them feel so good about themselves that they don't forget who you are in that moment. And try not to mention one thing that you do. They're going to say, wow, this person is amazing. Who is this person? I had to tell you about Maurice. I got to tell you about X, Y, Z. Cause that person, they did, man, I'm telling y'all that's going to boost your confidence. That's going to extremely boost your confidence and then surround yourself with positivity. I love to read. I love to stimulate my mind and I love to build up others, but there's more to that. It's how you start your day. I start my day with prayer and meditating on the word of God, getting my mind focused for today, speaking words over myself and then planning my day. Hey, when I wake up my kids, I'm going to encourage them to I'm going to give them words of affirmation. I'm going to speak over their lives. Hey, you guys are brilliant. You're intelligent. You're children of God. You're going to do anything. You can do anything. I've been doing that with my kids, my daughter who Micah this weekend, she swam for the first time without a vest couple of weeks, about a month ago, she was like, daddy, think I can do it. I was like, yes, I told you can do anything. This girl had a rest on only. Swam to the deep end of the pool, swam back. I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be honest with y'all. I'm still overcoming. I still have little flashbacks when I was younger, I'm overcoming that fear thing but I jumped in the pool. I got in the deep end and I did a little lap. I was nervous. I was scared, but I did it for my daughter. My daughter was swimming laps around me y'all. And then this weekend. She said, dad, you think I can try it without my vest? I said, yeah, babe, try it. You can do it. You can do anything. I tell you, you can do anything. You believe it. You put your mind to it. You can do it. She took a rest off, jumped in that water. She was nervous for two seconds, but she was swimming back and forth, doing her thing without the vest, just swimming regular. I was so proud of her, but because it started with me last month and months before that saying, Hey, you can do anything. Anything you believe in you can achieve. And then she said, dad, you think I can do it? I said, yes, I know you can do it. And she took that confidence. He jumped in the pool and she swam. So I don't know what your pool is looking but I know that you can jump in and you can do it. I believe in you. So y'all have to understand that if you really want to boost your confidence, if you feel a low self esteem, or if you feel like you want to boost your confidence more, start with those small achievable goals. Start with those small achievable goals. Check them off the first thing in the morning, right? Pray, play some worship music like I do or whatever it is you got to get yourself going. Listen to 10 minutes of an audio book to get yourself going. Encourage somebody else. I encourage my kids. First thing, I want their minds. The first thing, I don't want to be one of those parents that's like always yelling at their kids. I dislike when I have to yell at my kids when they don't listen. I have to restrain myself, but sometimes You know, sometimes, parents, we don't, we're not always perfect. We're not always perfect. And sometimes you gotta let them, you gotta let them have it. You gotta let them have it. And in those moments, I feel terrible, but I also feel good that I let them have it. So they understand that, they can't just do what they want to do. Sometimes God has to yell at us and say, Hey, You're going down that wrong path. Stop. Stop. I've heard too many stories of people that was like, Hey, God, tell him, no, don't do that. And they didn't listen to God. And now they're going through so many things. I've been in that situation where God said, no, I didn't listen. And I had to deal with the consequences. But listen to that voice. Surround yourself with positivity. Surround yourself with positivity. Read continually. Always be learning. Always be learning. Find books in your wheelhouse. Find the books in your area of expertise about mindset. I told you about atomic habits about the About the way the superior man come on compound effect the Bible itself man These books are gonna change your mind and change your life the power of now Come on, y'all the subtle art of not giving a bleep You know, I don't cuss, but that book, if you can tolerate the cursing in that book will put you in a mindset that's yo, life is bigger than these little things that I'm worried about. Life is bigger than these little things I'm worried about, but what's most stimulating, what's going to boost your confidence, is boosting somebody else's confidence. Getting somebody else around you, finding out about them, make them feel good about themselves, that's going to boost your confidence because you know that you have the vernacular, the tenacity, the ability to make somebody feel good. You can decide, hey, I'm going to encourage, I'm going to lift up my kids today, I'm going to restrain from getting in my own way. And thinking negatively about myself. That's what it's going to do for the subconscious mind. Achieving those small goals, boosting somebody else up, always learning, filling your mind with those things of positivity are going to boost your subconscious mind, which is going to stimulate your forward thinking, which is going to boost your natural flow and allow you to be the best version of yourself. Try those little habits out. I encourage you and I guarantee you, your confidence will be through the roof. And because you walk with such tenacity, with such charisma, people are not going to look at it as arrogance. People are going to look at it as confidence, because you're going to be feeling high about yourself, but it's not going to be to the point where you're puffing up yourself. You're going to have that aura, that presence, that spirit that's going to transcend into others. You're going to be boosting up others. You're going to be lifting up others. And yes, you're going to be walking around with confidence and you're going to be that person. But it's going to affect them positively because they're going to be going up too. You're not building yourself up while tearing others down. You're building yourself up while pushing others higher than you. Which is like a, um, I forget the word for that effect. But even though you're pushing them up, they're going to lift you higher than them. Cause they're like this person, I got to be around this person. When people want to be around you, when people are gravitating to you, you're going to have your confidence boosted. So boost that confidence on today. Y'all start with those little habits and build on that. I encourage you guys to do that. And I'm here. If you need me, give yourself mo And not less have a great day, walk in the confidence of who you are, because God made you great. And I'll catch you guys on the next episode./

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This is Maurice, your mindset coach here, giving you inspiration on a day to day. I wanted to let you guys know that if you're enjoying this episode, this episode talking about confidence and boosting that, and you still need a little bit more, I'm happy to help. I just launched my new coaching program through the totem app, where you can solicit one on one coaching with me. Yes, your coach, Maurice I Jones to get your mind right, to get your life, right. So go ahead and head over to my Instagram or head on over to the totem app. Coach app and request service for me there on a total coach app, and we can get you locked in so you could be on your way to changing your mind, changing your life. Talk to you soon. See you in our next session.