Finding Work Life Balance | Living Your New Normal

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Even if you don't believe it, say it until you do believe it. I got this. Look at yourself in that mirror. You got this. You can do it. You put in that work. You're that person. You got this. God made you for greatness, right? No one can touch you, right? You are that person. Walk in there. Okay. Okay. Hey everybody and welcome to another episode of more or less today. I'll be talking about life balance and I know people always say work life balance, and there's different opinions on that. We're gonna get into that, but today, I'm gonna talk about your balancing of life after you bounce back from a traumatic experience. After you bounce back from something terrible happened, when your whole world is rocked, when your whole world is shifted, and you have to bounce back. Back to newness of life. I'm excited because I'm visiting my family here in Virginia. Right now I'm visiting some friends in Richmond, Virginia. And so I'm filming from my hotel room. I like that I'm able to pick up and go wherever, whenever. And so this is like a really cool thing about mobile podcasting, right? So you just get into it. So right now I'm recording live from Richmond, Virginia, this episode here. A shout out to all my friends, all my family, shout out to my viewers, y'all. Bye bye. The numbers are climbing up, but we just getting started. Just got a month in. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you. But as always, let's get right into it. We're talking about balance. So again, if you guys are new to following me here on Moe or Less, we're talking about getting the moe or the most out of life so you're not leaving here with less, so you're not giving, so the world knows that you gave it your all, rather than the world not knowing who you are. You want to leave this place fulfilled. You want to leave here where God's saying, well done, my good and faithful servant. You want to leave this place knowing that you put your all out there. That impact that you had was genuine was fulfilling, was wonderful. And so you want to leave it all out, right? If you know my story it started years ago. Since I was a young boy, always wanted to be an entrepreneur, always wanted to speak to multiple people and change lives to just speaking as time progressed, and I found the Lord and I just wanted to change lives so they can live better. And I've always been back about mindset, always been intrigued by how, why people respond the way they do, why people act the way they do, how people can grow up in the same house, the same circumstance and develop differently. And so I've always been on that quest. And so I've studied over. over years and coach people over years. I've read thousands of, not thousands, hundreds of books relative to that subject matter of cognitive dissonance self improvement, emotional intelligence, whatever you want to call it, all these different areas around mindset, right? And a lot of them point me back to what I've learned in the Bible, right? Everything can be, in my opinion, derived from the Bible and just expounded upon. And in that request, I've stumbled upon this journey. I'm being a mindset development coach and bugging right here. Just the I have some friends that just launched a new app called totem. com. It's the totem app. com where you can get live coaching from a trainer like myself on personal development and growth. And so if any of you are looking for a personal development coach. In mindset development, I have materials, I have resources, and you can check out my resources through my profile on the Totem app. You're going to start seeing that link below here in the description. So if you're listening to this on any of the iPod on any of the podcast channels or watching this on YouTube, you're going to see it in the description. You can click and book your appointment, okay? Not only do I want you listening to this, but I want to transform your life. I want to change for, I want to change your life. for the better. And plug it back into my story. Earlier this year, my wife passed away and it was wrecking. It turned my whole world upside down. And I had to dig deep. Into what I've learned about life to I call it my bounce back because a lot of people, when they lose the love of their life, when they lose that rock that, that spouse, that family member, that friend, that, that parent, when they, that child, when they lose that person that has their whole heart when they lose that person that, that has that great piece, a void is missing and it takes a lot to bring that person back to a place Of peace of clarity and on my journey, I want to share with you guys what I did and how I got to this place. It all started with already being in a flow of mindset, right? And having control of your mind, because if you can control your mind, you can control your life, right? The Bible teaches us that teaches us to renew our minds daily. So it's a daily practice. It's a daily effort to renew our minds. In the word of God, when you pray, we pray, we say, Lord, give us this day our daily bread. Give us our nourishment, what we need for this day. And is that daily practice is going to get you in a place of preparation for whatever life throws at you. If you wake up and say, God, I'm going to give you the glory. You walk forth on that day. Giving God the glory, what happens next is going to be nothing but the glory of God. So when life wrecks you and your world is turned upside down, all that's left is your trust in the Lord and where you are footed, where you are grounded. And I'm grounded in mindset. If you have a strong mind, you can overcome anything. There's stories of people who've broken barriers, who've overcome the impossible, and it all started with their mindset. That's it. And so in my personal journey, right? I had to learn that what will it take for me to get back into the flow, get back into reality, get back into what we've dubbed as the new normal, when your world does a 180, everything that happens from that point. Is your new normal you lose someone now you have to live life with that loss, you lost a leg Now you have lived life with that loss you know lose a job now you have to live life with that loss what are you going to do with that? How are you going to bounce back? How are you going to move forward? Today is your lucky day i'm going to lock in To what i've been doing Recently, to get to that place. First and foremost, it starts with my relationship with God. It starts with giving God the glory each and every day. And narrowing your mindset down to the moment, to the now, right? Making today the most important day. When you have a big thing like the loss, In your life, the only thing that really matters is the now. Whatever is going to happen in the future is going to come when that time comes. But all you can do, all you can manage, is what you do today. Focus first on today. Being at peace today. Getting in your right state of mind today. Being self aware today. And self awareness is key. One thing I did was tap into my community, right? I tapped into my community and said, hey, Even though I'm developing and getting better each and every day and God is working on me, I'm still gonna have moments because it's gonna hit me either Emotionally, it might show up in tears, it might show up in anger, it might show up in some kind of randomness. And so be accountable for that, right? You got to say, hey, This is still fresh. This is still happening. When you see me lashing out or responding out of my character, say, Hey, Maurice, do you need a prayer? Or, Hey, Maurice, hey, I'm here for you. I got you. I love you. What do you need from me? I went to my community with that. I was like, Hey, I might not be having a good day. Do not keep it to yourself. Do not keep it to yourself, because grief is a serious thing. Go back and listen to my episodes about walking through the processes of grief. When you tap into that trueness and those phases of grief, you're going to be able to bounce back from anything. And so when you're ready to start bouncing back and start living your life in the new now, you have to be accountable for those times. Where grief is just gonna grab you again as I'll call it. It's just gonna come out of nowhere You're gonna be happy you're gonna be happy for weeks for months and all of a sudden It's gonna smack you out of nowhere and you're gonna be like, why do I feel like this? Why do I feel overwhelmed? I was just grinding. I was just doing my thing prepare yourself for those random Moments and have that routine I love listening to audiobooks. I love reading my word and listening to the word of God. I love blasting, playing my feel good music, my Christian music, my worship music. I have those mechanisms set in place that when I'm going off, I'm like, hey, let me tap into the things that's going to bring me back. That's going to bring me clarity, that's going to get my mind saying, hey, let's get that cycle going again. Let's get that cycle going again. You got to train your mind the same way you train your body, right? You got to eat right. You got whatever you're feeding it. You got to feed it the right things like your body. If you could tell, like I've been in the gym more, I don't know if you can tell, I don't know if you look at any of my videos, you can tell but there's transformation happening because I'm being dedicated and consistent and treating my body and so when you take a day off or, when you eat the wrong thing. You might taste good in that moment, but it's going to not, it's going to, affect you. It's going to definitely affect you, later on And so now it comes to that place of what motivates you, you know Going back to that episode tap it into your why what is your why? Finding that anchor again. Doing this for my kids. I got to be the best version of myself, one, for my own personal health, because stress and depression can cause sickness in your body. So you have to be committed to being the best version of yourself. But then you, but then that anchor, okay, my kids are going through it too. So if they see their dad okay, dad is doing good. And I'll look it up to my dad, then I can do it. Then I can keep going. Then I can keep pushing. I can overcome this thing because daddy showing me how, whatever your right is, whatever your anchor is, you got to tap into that thing. So always have your why always focus on the right now today. What is today? What am I going to give life today and work in that flow, right? And so when it comes down to finding that balance, you really have to get into that me time right now I'm taking time to myself. I got a hotel to myself just to relax and be by myself to do me My kids are good. They're with friends. They're with family. They're being taken care of around people that I trust, that I know I can be good. And, but you need that too. If you wanna bounce back properly, you have to commit to your personal development. Yes, you might be accountable if you're a parent like myself, especially a single dad. If you're a single mom, a single dad, or you are a par parents with a lot of kids, or you have a lot on your plate no matter who you are. If you're a person with a dog or a cat, you gotta be responsible for that. You have to find time for you and say, Hey, I know I have these responsibilities, but for me. To be able to take care of these responsibilities, I need to rest, right? That was the whole meaning. I'm going, I'm throwing a little nugget in here, but that was the whole purpose behind the Sabbath. They made it more lawful than it needed to be, but the whole purpose behind the Sabbath was like, it was to put into that work day in and day out, but rest so you can have the full energy, full clarity of mind to get back into what God has called you to do, right? That was the whole meaning behind the Sabbath. But taking that component, taking that concept, right? Working hard, but taking time to rest up. Taking time to get back on track with God. Okay, God, did I pivot this week? Am I going off track? Am I going off course? Or am I still sticking to course? Yes. Okay, God, let me get that refresher. And it's time, it's good to pause. I guarantee you, if you go nonstop for a month, you're gonna get burnt out and you're gonna lose track. You're gonna fall off for months. You're gonna, if you post every day for Three weeks, you're going to get tired of posting and then you're not going to post for a month. But if you post every day for maybe four or five days rest up and just turn off your social media You're gonna have that clarity of okay. Let me be motivated again. Let me recenter myself Let me refocus myself and push through and get back to posting if you hit the gym You go that you go every day you might pull something and you might not get back in the gym for a month, right? And the next thing, you're eating what you're not supposed to eat. You're going to put on that extra weight. Next thing, you put on pounds that you worked so hard to lose, but if you do that three to four days and rest your body. Rest your body real good intentionally and then get back into the flow. I'm telling you those days I'm telling you those rest days are gonna be vitally important for you So you have to have you time this me time is great. This me time. I'm relaxed. I'm enjoying me I'm redefining myself getting back into loving myself Knowing who I am know who God made me and being excited about that boasting yourself up in the Lord but knowing that You are awesome. You're that great person. God called you to greatness. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, you know what? I got this. I got this. Speak that over your life. And it comes to mindset, it comes to what we're feeding our, right? Where we're feeding ourselves, but what you're speaking about yourself. You might have had a low week, but you have to look into that mirror. Even if you don't believe it, say it until you do believe it. I got this. Look at yourself in that mirror. You got this. You can do it. You put in that work. You're that person. You got this. God made you for greatness, right? No one can touch you, right? You are that person. Walk in there. Believe that about yourself. Believe that about yourself. I guarantee you, because when you believe that about yourself and you walk in that, because they say they'll know them by their fruit, you're gonna put that performance on and you're not gonna have to tell people I'm this or I'm that. They're gonna look upon you and be like, yo, there's something about that person. Yo, when I see you every time I see you, I'm lifted up, I'm encouraged. You bring this everywhere you go. But it starts with you. It starts with your you time. It starts with you getting into that place of knowing yourself, loving yourself, right? And you have to have that one on one me time. You have to take that day in one day at a time. Don't get overwhelmed, don't stress, but focus on you this day. Recognize who you are. If you need that time, that break, take as many breaks as you need. Take as many breaks as you need. Social media ain't going nowhere. That job ain't going nowhere. All those things around you that need you, they ain't going nowhere. They're at your command. Take authority over your life. They're at your command. And that's how you bounce back understanding where you are every moment. I'm in a good place right now. I feel good. I feel God has graced me up to this moment and he's given me that mental clarity that I need to articulate my journey. A lot of people that lost their loved one, they Even like I was talking with people in a group the other day and someone shared that like it was about 20 years for them It's about 20 years before they actually started dating again, because they were that broken, right? I know my wife would not have want me To be in a place where i'm not giving this world my all we came together To set fire to this world in the name of jesus And i'm here to keep that fire burning because the kids need to see hey mommy's not here But daddy still got it for the kingdom and if daddy's gonna keep pushing for the kingdom Then I know the kingdom is where it's at. That's the example that i'm setting for my kids for my why? For my anchor. What is your anchor? What's gonna anchor you? And I guarantee you, if you haven't gone through something that rocked your world, I'm, God forbid something happens to you, but you have to put yourself in a place. Something might have happened 20 years ago, 30 years ago. I don't know how old you are when you're listening to this, but something might be on this way that's gonna rock your world because I guarantee you one thing. Life is going to life. I guarantee you another thing, the one thing that we all have in common as human beings is we all have an appointed day to die. That is common for all men. So do you know the Lord? Do you know when your time is? I don't know when my time is, I don't know when your time is. But I know that every single day I'm going to hit record. Every single day I'm going to give the world my all. Every single day I'm going to leave it out here. What are you going to do with your time? When life hits you and knocks you down, are you going to stay down or are you going to give back up? You have to bounce back no matter what. You have to give life your all. Life is going to life every single day. There's people that's been through crazier, worse stuff than I have. There's people that ain't even been through what I've been through. But nevertheless, it comes down to mindset. Jesus Christ carried a cross to the cross and died on the cross so that we can cross over into newness of life. Cause he had that mindset that, hey, no matter what, I want this cup to pass for me, but nevertheless, Lord, let your will be done. The Lord, your will for my life, let it be done. Everything I'm doing is to the glory of the Lord. This is not even for me. This is for you. It's for God. It's for his glory. Cause somebody might be listening to this. And trauma might have happened to you or you feel like something's gonna happen or you might be in a place like where your world's rocked, your world's all over the place and you don't know what to do. Trust in the Lord. Prepare yourself. Get into your mindset bag. Get into that place where you're prepared for whatever life throws at you. Because if you have this, because this this governs our being. Whatever we think we believe, whatever we believe becomes our reality. What do you believe? What do you believe in God for? What are you standing on? I encourage you take time in this day alone to find that out. Thank you guys. God bless you. 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